Just general notes re: Mom - she's still very possessive of dad. Likes to be between her boys - insisted on sitting between Dad & Gabriel when both were there able to sit.
She likes to be in the middle of everything - part of the group when people stop by.
Sunday when Aunt Linda, Judy & I were there, we got Browns Chicken to eat, and mom stood waiting because Gabriel sat in her chair - till she got the seat she wanted. Then ate like a trooper.
Lawyer is suggesting to keep mom in the house at least a month after dad passes away - so that it is not so disruptive to her - to lose dad and then to move would be tough.
on the lighter side - Gabriel calls Connie Master - she corrects him to 'Boss'(hog?)
He is the unskilled labor (and a huge help)
He's learning - getting much better.
Con's realizing how much nurses know about moving & caring for people. to reposition sick people is not easy - nurses work as a team to maneuver patients as needed.
She has to explain where he should stand, where he needs to position himself / Dad / arms legs, etc.
Bodies are heavy - I've learned that from watching the Mythbusters try to maneuver Buster (the crash test dummy) around. and if the person is incapable or fighting against what you are saying, it is not easy.
When dad sits up now, he no longer has the capability to sit on his own or to hold himself upright - he has muscle spasms.
Almost appears as if he's dancing... still got rhythm at least. (If only the rest of us had some rhythm...)
That's part of what makes Con think it has spread to his brain.
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Hi Julie,
As much as it pains me to do so, I check The Jo Report daily. I also get the run-down from my Mom and Gaby. Take Care.
Katie B
Hello Julie,
I have spoken to Connie and received some of this info. Glad you are blogging it. What discussion of a memorial is going on?
Michael
WHAT CANCER CANNOT DO...
It cannot invade the soul, suppress memories, kill friendship, destroy peace, conquer the spirit, shatter hope, cripple love, corrode faith, steal eternal life, silence courage....
I love you, I'm thinking about you, I'm here if you need me.
I'm here, watching, waiting and holding you close in compassion and prayer. Hoping for the easiest possible resolution for all involved and for strength and healing for you. Love & Blessings,
~Angie
Michael -
We're hoping when a memorial service is held for Dad - I understood that is what he requested - we could have some posters of photos, or slides or some such available for people to look at.
When I asked Dad his wishes, he told me he has the cremation set up - info is in his wallet /papers - which has all been given to the lawyer and Con has a copy at the house.
I asked dad what he wanted done with the ashes, and he said he has an urn ready, but as far as keeping or spreading them - kinda up to us. I asked if he wanted them here are in Colombia, again, he didn't express a clear desire. He said if we were keeping the Burbank house he would like them spread under the Ginkgo tree there, but since we're to sell it eventually, he didn't have a preference.
He told me all this in the hospital.
My understanding on the memorial is that sometime after his death, we have a memorial for him. But nothing more concrete than that.
Hi Julie,
I dont know what to say except you all are doing a wonderful job in a situation with no ideal outcome.
Regarding photos, I have never seen one of your parent together in our collection. I do recall them dancing together at Suzanne's wedding, which is how I like to think of them, and of which many photos were taken.
Do take care, and I will give the house a call and plan to visit again with my mother.
Wishing you all, all the best
cousin Judy
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